Have you ever considered the possibility that maybe you and your best friend are going your separate ways later on in life? Maybe it’s because you’ll go to different universities, or one of you is moving to a different city. Or maybe even when the two of you had a lot of fights that in hindsight could have been avoided that can make you question your friendship. Either way, there could be a million reasons on why you have doubts if your friendship will last for a lifetime. It’s good that you have these questions circling around in your head. It means that you care. It means that your friend really contributes to your life in a positive way. Fortunately for you, we understand your situation and we want to help you to get rid of these insecurities about your friendship.
Below are 4 reasons listed why your friendship will survive through the worst!
You’ve seen each other at your worst
It takes a huge amount of trust to show vulnerability to your friends. However, it takes complete trust in a person to fully expose yourself to someone when you’re at your weakest. When you need a shoulder to cry on and your best friend doesn’t only provide her/his shoulder, but also their ears to listen and their heart to feel you. You don’t have to ask for it , no matter the situation. This isn’t that something that happens automatically like people often think. Your friend makes it happen, because he/she makes the conscious decision to be there for you and to support you unconditionally.
Your own language
You and your best friend can communicate with each other through some sort of ‘language’ that only the two of you can understand. You know how your friend feels by the way he/she looks, you understand their funny but weird behavior like no other and the two of you can make jokes that only you two will understand. This is a type of friendship that can’t be faked. It’s just a connection that you can’t describe with words to people who don’t have such a friendship in their lives.
Respect each other’s opinion
I’m sure there have been heated discussions between you and your best friend. And I can guarantee you that there will be many more arguments between you and your best friend…However, be grateful for this! Because most people will avoid having discussions with their friends just to play ‘safe’. They may think that it will affect their friendship in a negative way. Or when people do actually have an argument with their friends, they want to be right and tend to convince their friend that he/she is wrong. You and your friend on the other hand don’t even have to think this way about having a discussion. You both know that your friendship is much more valuable than feeling the need to win a discussion. So you just agree with disagree, and that’s perfectly fine.
The friendship is genuine
This is maybe the most important one. When you have a genuine friendship between two people you just feel secure. You want what’s best for your friend and your friend feels the same way about you. Basically, you feel confident in what you can expect of the friendship and that’s how it’s supposed to be. It’s not a matter of trust or loyalty anymore, but more a sense of a deeper connection between the two of you that makes the two of you so aligned with each other.
A strong friendship is something that should be really cherished. And Of course there are more features of a strong friendship than the 4 I named in this article. However most people underestimate what they have and overestimate what they don’t have. So if you got a friendship who has these 4 features or maybe even 1 then don’t worry. It’s often you who overthinks the situation and therefore overcomplicates it. The moment you realize this, the sooner you’ll stop with having insecurities about your friendship.
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Also, can you tell me a personal anecdote on how your friendship has been tested, but survived? I’m really curious, let me know your thoughts in the comment section.